Category: Let's talk
hello Zoners
i would like advice on how to deal with stress due to family commitments and a recent spate of accidents, i'm unable to go climbing which normally takes care of it.
so I'm caught in a vortex of stress and though i'd love to offload to anyone who's prepared to listen i cant.
But any hints or tips would be appreciated and eh mood altering substances are in moderation Damn!
cheers
Alex.
hey al, give www.emofree.com a look, it's a type of relaxation technique that you can use to get focused and try to burn off some unwanted stress. it's very easy to do.
Al? ok i will cheers but seeking solace in a website is a very souless way of dealing with personal stress
ooops!?.
I suppose since you can't go climbing, you also couldn't work out or run or anything like that. I found kickboxing to be effective, but I'm guessing that's out of the question too... So...how about listening to really loud music and screaming your lungs out. Writing also is a great way...something I've noticed you're quite talented at anyway. Hmm...not sure what else. I'll have to think on it.
1.write down all your feelings and thoughts then take joy in tearing them all up in little tiny pieces and throw them away.
2. confide in a friend and pour out your soul if they will listen. some times a good cry helps. though those kind of friends are few and far beteween.
3 stay in a hotel by yourself for an entire day with no one you know. Just to sit and think and re find yourself with no interuptions.
4 kind of goes with that last one but take a small vacation away from everything and everyone maybe in a distant place just some alone time to think. with no advice from others just self meditation.
5. maybe listen to some soothing music or don't know if there is ochean near by but the waves are so soothing just to sit there for hours feeling the ochean mist and wet sand.
6. Go for a massage some place.
7. help those with more problems than yourself it kind of brings things into perspective and makes your issues seem so much smaller.
8. hold your son close and listen to his laughter and feel his gental baby breath against your face. all your worries will melt away in his giggles.
Well for me personally also listening to loud music helps..well actually either loud or chillout music, depending on what kind of problems/stress I'm having. Also agree that a good talk to a good friend, someone who you can trust, someone who you know could help you/advice you or if they couldn't you know that they'd at least listen to you. Yes, true that there's not many friends that you have like that, but there are sure a few close friends like that that I do rely on when it comes to something like that, of course it's not to say that some people I meet will not become those type of friends, all depends on the person. As for going on a vacation somewhere far away from everyone and everything it's a very good idea and I so often feel like that, unfortunately if you're blind it's so difficult to go and wonder around in some unknown or foreign city/country. I also find that visitting good friends which I haven't seen in ages, especially if they live far away, even in another country is better, helps.
Masturbation: it works.
Lmao good one Captain now how did I ever miss that one lol.
thanks all.smile
Iv'e tried most of them and as desperate as i am for wilderness its just not possible with a child and the shit I'm dealing with or not as the case may be.
Holding Alasdair does help though he makes me laugh no matter what, I've even forgiven the little hooligan for pissing on me.
Talking with friends is something i can do up to a point as i promised NOT to discuss the reason for my stress though they will find out sooner or later,
Christ! The desolation of Inverpolly sounds wonderful mountains, crags and wild unpredictable,weather
I appreciate the idea's cheers
kick boxing hmm that's a possability
try being nice to old friends that might help
some net "friends" dont deserve it
Iv'e outgrown them and moved on
you should do the same
There's a great deep breathing technique that works for me when I'm stressed. Breathe in through your nose for five seconds, hold your breath for another five seconds, then exhale through your mouth as slowly as you can. Do this three or more times in a row and it will really relax your body.
thank you I'll try that I'd try anything right now.
smile
No Alex it's the other way around, you don't deserve any friends at all the way you treat them.
You haven't outgrown anything you should be back in nursery school the way you behave. It won't take people on here long to see through your lies...
Freya
look at this there's toys all over the floor here,
havent i told you to put them back in your box when your finished playing.
Oh dear they must be yours then Gobby...How's Ally btw?
Walking yet.....? Freya
Well jules i see you have decided to play the arsehole card it makes a change from the childish 1 im so accustomed to.
Your behaviour is pathetic no wonder Iv'e moved on and refused to play your game causing me maximum pain with minimum effort to yourself .
It shows that yet again you are unable to deal with rejection why dont you team up with Connie she's another who has refused to move on.Is it any wonder that your husband is a workaholic,it amazes me that the poor sap was stupid enough to marry you in the 1st place.
Ally's fine false alarm
Since when has anything like that been a 'false alarm' eh come on fess up Al and stop making up stories...
I have moved on but it seems that you still believe the entire world revolves around you??
Freya
im telling you nothing jules as its obvious you love to gossip and i just cant trust you.
the whole world does not revolve around me thank you and nor would i want it to.
get over the rejection jules and grow up
I don't want you to tell me anything when I know none of it is true...And you got it wrong again, I did the rejecting, not you so why don't you grow up eh?
LOL,pathetic and childish
cant you ever surprise me by being mature
you couldnt reject a male prostitute.
this is my last word on any subject with you as Iv'e had more meaningful conversations with Louis.
Louis and all your other imaginary friends?
I rejected you and you just can't take it.....
hey you two ... chill chill .. whatever happened between you guys was obviously in the past, and none of us know about it so let's all get along?!
I know, (from recent events) that ignoring someone is hard to do when they bite back at you, but try really really hard, just as I've been having to do with certain individuals. :(
Best of luck guys!
Rdchica
I agree pal but some just cannot move on sad isnt it.
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I came here in the hope of fresh start but no the children have followed me here, and they are determined to make trouble, its pathetic.